The History of Father’s Day

The first known Father’s Day service occurred in Fairmont, WV on July 5, 1908, thanks to Grace Golden Clayton. The service was to celebrate and honor all fathers, especially the hundreds of men, Grace’s father included, who were killed during a devastating mine explosion in Monongah, WV the previous year. However, the observance did not become an annual celebration, and it was not promoted. In fact, very few people outside the local area knew about it.

In 1909, Sonora Smart Dodd of Spokane, Washington, was also inspired to create a holiday honoring fathers. Her father, William Jackson Smart, was a farmer and a Civil War veteran that raised Sonora and her five younger siblings all by himself after his wife died giving birth to their youngest child in 1898. While attending a Mother’s Day church service in 1909, Sonora, who was 27 years old at the time, came up with the idea.

In just a few months, Sonora convinced the Spokane Ministerial Association and the YMCA to designate a Sunday in June to celebrate fathers. She proposed June 5, which was her father’s birthday, but the ministers chose the third Sunday in June so they would have enough time after Mother’s Day to prepare their sermons. June 19, 1910, Sonora delivered gifts to handicapped fathers. The boys from the local YMCA decorated their lapels with fresh-cut roses. They chose red roses for living fathers and white roses for fathers that had passed away. The city’s ministers also devoted their sermons to fatherhood that day.

The widely publicized event in Spokane gained interest that reached all the way to Washington, D.C., and Sonora’s celebration started its journey to becoming a national holiday. In 1916, President Woodrow Wilson and his family personally observed the day. In 1924, President Calvin Coolidge signed a resolution in favor of Father’s Day “to establish more intimate relations between fathers and their children and to impress upon fathers the full measure of their obligations.” In 1966, President Lyndon Johnson signed an executive order that the holiday be celebrated on the third Sunday in June. Under President Richard Nixon, in 1972, Congress passed an act officially making Father’s Day a national holiday. Today, Father’s Day is celebrated all over the world in more than 50 countries.

Sea Life Sensory Solutions

Who couldn’t use a little calm in their life?! I have often provided the, Sea Life Sensory Solutions, resource to parents and childcare providers I work with. It can be used with kids ages 1 and up. This week I decided to introduce the Puffer Fish Puff, Clam Cuddle, Turtle Tongue, and Starfish Stretch to my toddler. I have modeled for him how to do each sea creature, and throughout the day I will prompt him to do the turtle tongue or sea creature of his choice to practice. During a moment of frustration, I have demonstrated using one of the skills to calm myself down. He seems to favor the turtle tongue and starfish stretch. I will name the skill I am doing as I am doing it, so he doesn’t think I am upset and just sticking my tongue out at him. A revision of the turtle tongue could be a turtle tuck, where you pretend to tuck into your shell. I am entertained by him doing all of them, and honestly when I do them it makes me laugh. Next week we will work on using the skills when he is starting to get frustrated. https://www.yourkidsot.com/blog/quick-ways-to-calm-down-sea-life-sensory-solutions

Diversifying Your Child’s Library

Reading to your child develops language skills, social-emotional development, and is an excellent bonding opportunity for you and your child. You may feel like you’re stuck in a rut, reading your child the same type of book every night. A great organization for resources is We Need Diverse Books, where their vision is for all children to see themselves in the books they read. Here are some great books to add to your library:

 

How Do You Say/¿Cómo se dice? by Angela Dominguez

Malcolm Little: The Boy Who Grew Up to Become Malcolm X by Ilyasah Shabazz, illustrated by AG Ford

Young Water Protectors: A Story About Standing Rock by Aslan and Kelly Tudor

Colors of Us by Karen Katz

Everyone Matters by Pat Thomas

Happy In Our Skin by Fran Manushkin

Pink Is For Boys by Robb Pearlman

Everywhere Babies by Susan Meyers

Special People, Special Ways by Arlene Maguire

My Brother, Matthew by Mary Thompson

Rules by Cynthia Lord

Talking to Children About Race

What can I do?

In light of recent events, many parents find themselves wondering what they can do to have the conversation regarding race with their children. Some children might be too young to understand what is going on at this time, but some ARE old enough and are maybe asking some hard questions. So how do you explain race, racism, social injustice, etc. to a child? It’s hard enough for us to understand as adults! I’ve compiled a list of social media accounts that list books and resources to help parents explain these potentially difficult topics with their children. Even if your children are not asking the questions, no child is too young to be read to.

Instagram accounts supporting diversity and inclusion literature:

@hereweread

@theconsciouskid

@inclusivestorytime

@diversereads

Articles on how to talk to your children about race:

https://www.parenttoolkit.com/social-and-emotional-development/advice/social-awareness/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-race-and-racism

https://www.embracerace.org/resources/teaching-and-talking-to-kids

https://www.npr.org/2020/05/31/866426170/raising-white-kids-author-on-how-white-parents-can-talk-about-race

https://www.nationalgeographic.com/family/in-the-news/talking-about-race/

Play and Learning in a Time of Physical Distance

Since the beginning of this unusual time in our world we have consistently heard the words “the new normal” and “social distancing”. They have become a regular part of our conversations and how we look at the world. While we all know there is change happening in our lives, we also know that things will eventually become steady and safe again. I have heard several in the social/emotional profession call for a change in how we use this language, and I must agree. Normal has changed, for now, and my hope is that it will be a better normal. As for social distancing, I would rather think of it as a physical distance, for now. We are still social creatures and we seek out social connections in one way or another. This is especially true for young children.

There is a lot going on right now our world and children are noticing, talking about, and expressing them in their own way. Play is essential as children attempt to make sense of their world in this way. Pretend play scenarios focus on what they are learning to understand, from taking care of baby dolls, or taking them to the doctor to get a shot. This is one way that they process their experiences. In telling stories, building towns with blocks, writing, drawing, or painting, (even in scribbles), we get a glimpse into their inner world. Outdoors the play becomes even more active as the space gives them room to run, jump, and act out more elaborate pretend play scenes where they get to save the world. They use language they have heard to ask questions and express their childhood thoughts about what is going on for them. All of this is social play, all of this is learning, and all of this should be supported. Especially in this time of physical distancing.

So how do we, those who care for children in our homes and in group care, support children as they navigate their world? It is an important question. It is also important to address it from the child’s perspective, meet them where they are in their process of understanding, and support them in a way that helps develop their sense of safety. This is a question that has always been important, even before a virus shook our world. My answer to that is, as it has always been, is to engage with them in their play and learning experiences. They will lead the direction of the experiences, and we will guide their learning through interaction. In childcare, the smaller group sizes allow for more responsive interactions between adults and children. At home or in a childcare home, there is much more time for one on one interactions as well as interactions with multi-age groups. This is a time to socially engage at a deeper level, play to support learning, and above all play for the sake of play and relieve stress.

So, stay social, even at a distance. Stay social, even if it means your face is covered and you are wearing a smock to cover your clothes. Stay social as you wash your hands and help children wash theirs. Model the safety practices and make them playful learning experiences.